Sixty-eighth day of work selfie

I’m all pretty in pink today.  Is it too much?  Well if it is, I don’t care.  I got this dress at Car Free Day on Denman Street a couple weekends ago.  They had it in other colours, but the pink one was the most vibrant and just felt right for summer.  The purple tank top I’m wearing under it is from Smart Set.  My pink sweater is from the Plenty warehouse sale at the Vancouver Convention Centre on Easter weekend.  I know it’s hot, but when I’m in the office, the temperature is more regulated so I don’t really notice the heat or humidity until I go outside.  Maybe I should just leave a sweater in my office, since I don’t really need one when I’m outside before or after work.  

I’ve been buying a lot of fancy jewellery lately.  I got this necklace at Greek Day on Broadway yesterday.  I have a similar one in blue that I got from Payless and I got complimented on it, so I thought I’d buy another necklace in that style.  I bought a pair of matching earrings as well, but they are kind of heavy so I didn’t wear them.  I knew they were heavy when I bought them, but I really wanted a matching set.  Maybe next time, I will just wear them briefly for photos and then take them off.  Instead, I decided to wear my pink flip flop earrings which are more lightweight.  I got my shiny bracelet from Car Free Day on Main Street a couple weekends ago.  I somehow didn’t have a pink or purple bracelet to pair with this outfit.  We’ll have to change that soon.  

I love this purple ring that I got at Greek Day yesterday.  But it’s kind of tight.  I didn’t realize until afterwards how tight it is.  And I got a second ring in this size too.  The guy selling them told me it would be okay because my fingers would be less swelled up in the morning when I put on the ring.  But contrary to that, I felt like my fingers were actually more swelled up this morning and the ring felt even tighter.  I tried on the ring on my left hand just to see the difference, and my ring finger on that hand is somehow fatter.  I couldn’t even get the ring off, so I concluded that I must be married to myself now.  I managed to remove it using some lotion.  Is it possible to lose weight in your finger?  Is that a thing?  Maybe tight rings are like a corset for your finger?  I don’t want to hurt myself though.  But I feel like my finger fluctuates in terms of swelling throughout the day, because sometimes I feel like the ring maybe fits and other times I’m like nope, this is definitely way too tight.  I wonder if the guy will let me exchange them.  Except he doesn’t have a physical store and I don’t know what event he’ll be at next.  What a fail.   Maybe I’ll have to find someone who has a more slender finger than I do and bestow a lovely gift upon them.  Or sell it because I paid good money for it.  And also find someone who likes heavy earrings.  Or just keep everything and suffer through the discomfort because beauty is pain.

Sixty-seventh day of work selfie

I know it’s hot as hell today, but I didn’t feel like shaving so I’m wearing pants.  Besides, I said I didn’t want to let the weather dictate my choice of clothing.  If I’d read the news before I left the house this morning, I probably would’ve worn something rainbow coloured to celebrate marriage equality in the States.  I got this top at a department store called Red Apple in Revelstoke.  I went there with my family a couple years ago because my dad had a reunion with some of his high school buddies.  I don’t think I could ever live in a small town.  Shopping wise, I was like “This is it?”.  Red Apple is kind of like a Winners or a Walmart, but smaller with not as much stuff.  But I managed to pick up few nice things there, this top included.  My mint green cardigan is from Jacob and my black pants are from Winners.  My Swarovski necklace was a Christmas gift from my cousins.  My bracelet is from Sears and my ring is from UBC.  These earrings are new.  I got them at Payless, along with some other BOGO jewellery over the weekend.  I guess maybe I’ll shave tomorrow and start wearing dresses again.  Maybe.

Sixty-first day of work selfie

So you can’t really tell from the photo, but this dress is long and almost goes down to my ankles.  Well not quite, but it would if I were shorter.  I don’t tend to wear a lot of long dresses, because I always find they look weird for some reason, but maybe that’s just because I’m not used to wearing them.  I got this one from Ross Dress For Less in the States and this is my first time wearing it.  I’ve decided I like long dresses now.  I heard it was going to be cold and rainy today.  It wasn’t this morning, but it is now.  I didn’t want to wear pants, and I didn’t want to re-shave my legs, so this dress worked out well.  You might not be able to see in the picture, but the dress has black and grey stripes across it.  I wore grey in honour of the new Fifty Shades of Grey book that was released today.  No, I’m kidding, I totally didn’t, it was just a coincidence.  Why would I want to celebrate such a gross insult to literature?  I heard that this new version is even worse than the original and I have no idea how that’s even possible.  I tried to read the first book and couldn’t because I was just so shocked and disgusted by the horrible grammar and writing style.  Anyway, since I knew it would get cooler today, I paired this dress with my purple jacket that I got at the Plenty warehouse sale and the Vancouver Convention Centre during Easter weekend this year.  I love it for its unique zippers and pockets.  My necklace is from Her Story Lockets and I got it when they had a booth at the PNE Marketplace last summer, and my lock earrings are from another booth that was also at the PNE during that time.  And my ring, of course, is from UBC.  

I wish the lighting was better so you could actually see the dress properly.  And I wish I had a full length mirror.  Oh well.

Fifty-eighth day of work selfie

Why yes, this is a new dress.  Thanks for noticing.  I managed to drag my ass out of the house yesterday to go to Italian Day on Commercial Drive with my friend.  I’m not the hugest fan of street festivals, mainly because I hate crowds, but I like to attend them occasionally and it was fun.  Hot and crowded, but fun.  I shaved my legs really quickly in the morning before leaving the house, but my electric razor died before I was done.  But I figured it was okay that I didn’t fully shave, since that could be my way of celebrating Italian Day.  Since people in European countries aren’t as obsessed with shaving as we are in North America.  There were lots of booths and vendors selling various goods and food.  Of course I would stop to look at the ones with dresses.  I can’t remember which store this one was from, but they had a booth set up and some of the racks had dresses priced at 2 for $30.  So this is one of the 2 I decided on.  I didn’t try them on, so I wasn’t sure if they would fit properly, but I decided to risk it.  It’s a little loose, but otherwise fits well.  Better too big than too small, because I’m not going to try squish into a dress that doesn’t fit.  My only regret is that I didn’t buy a Janet Jackson shirt that they had in the same booth, especially since she’s touring this summer and I could’ve worn it to her concert.  But maybe I can go back and still find at some point.  I really like this dress because it’s so bright and colourful.  And it just so happened that my green Ross cardigan would match exactly the colour of green in the dress.  It’s like it was meant to be.  I wore it with my green and gold jewellery, necklace and ring from UBC, earrings from a Lansdowne kiosk, and bracelet from Dollarama.  Yay for adding more colourful dresses to my wardrobe!

Fifty-sixth day of work selfie

Some days you just don’t feel like wearing bright colours, so I decided to wear this navy blue Ross dress.  Since I lack the boobs to fill it out, I wore this black Walrmart tank top underneath it.  In keeping with darker colours, I wore it with my brown and gold Aritzia sweater.  Actually, now that I’m looking at it, I think the sweater might actually be black, but the gold sparkles cause it to look brown? I figure I should wear a few dark coloured outfits before it gets too unbearably hot and I won’t be able to.  I decided to wear silver jewellery to add some shine to this outfit, with my Payless heart necklace and earrings.  And then my Suzy Shier bracelet and my UBC ring.  

Thirty-second day of work selfie

I wanted another fun outfit that day because I was going to a Neil Diamond concert after work.  And yes, I’m pretty sure I was the youngest person there.  I got this dress at H&M.  I actually wore it to my interview for my current job but with a different sweater.  So it has to be lucky or something, right?  Or maybe I just feel really confident when I wear it?  Is it weird that I love a dress with birds on it when in reality I actually hate birds and find them super annoying?  I repeated my purple Jacob sweater and my grey Bryan’s leggings (pretty much the only leggings I own that currently fit).  My aunt gave me these silver earrings as a birthday present one year and I think they might be my favourite pair.  I love that they’re big enough to stand out, but not so big that they’re too heavy or obnoxious.  I decided to wear two bracelets that day, because, yay, concert!  One is from Claire’s and one might be from the dollar store.  The necklace is also from Claire’s and the ring is from UBC.

Looking at the photo, it almost looks like some of the birds on the dress are dying, rather than flying.  Or maybe I’m just seeing it that way because I hate birds?

Twenty-first day of work selfie

I really like blue when it comes to clothing.  I got this dress at an Orb Warehouse sale and I think I got the cardigan from Ross.  The scarf is actually my mom’s.  My sister gave it to her for Christmas.  She gave me one too, but it was red and black and didn’t match this particular outfit.  I think she go it from Ardene, which has some fairly decent stuff if you look for it.  I’m still not okay with buying actual clothes from there though.  Except I have bought yoga stuff there before which wasn’t bad. I only have one long blue necklace but it’s not the right shade of blue for this outfit, so I opted for my silver, nickel free Payless heart.

Twelfth day of work selfie

On the twelfth day of work selfies… I must confess I actually don’t know where I bought this outfit from.  I mean I remember buying these things but I don’t know from which store.  Just that this scarf is from Avon, the belt is from Dynamite, the necklace is from UBC, and the earrings are from a kiosk in Lansdowne Centre.   You don’t always need to know where something came from in order to appreciate it.

Bruce Jenner’s Interview with Diane Sawyer

On Friday, ABC aired Bruce Jenner’s much anticipated interview.  He sat down with Diane Sawyer to talk about his life and his coming out as transgender.  I have never in my life seen an episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians, but I have so much respect for Bruce Jenner.  It was mentioned how there’s an age divide in how we know Bruce, older folks having seen him in the Olympics, and the younger generation seeing him on the reality show.  I’m sure people tuned in for many different reasons, because they’ve been aware of the media attention he’s recently had, because they’ve heard the rumours and wonder if they’re true, because they like reality TV and this is a sort of extension of it, because they’re generally curious and want to learn more about transgender issues.  I thought the interview was very informative and very important.

I remember reading some of the comments on an article about the interview, and someone had responded with “Who cares?”  I generally don’t care about the lives of celebrities either, but this interview was so important for so many reasons.  Many people do not have a clear understanding about issues like gender identity and sexuality.  Watching the interview was very informative, and even more so because it came from a person who has lived it.  I think Bruce did such a good job explaining the difference between sexuality and gender identity, stating that “sexuality is who you go to bed with, and gender identity is who you go to bed as.”  I recall Diane Sawyer looking really confused about it, but having not seen very many of her interviews, I realize that could just be her natural facial expression.

Sometimes it’s difficult for me to realize that not everyone is as informed and educated about certain matters.  I’ve taken Psychology courses and Gender Studies courses that deeply explored the topics of sexuality and orientation.  I’ve watched TV shows and documentaries about these topics.  I have friends and acquaintances who have different sexual orientations.  It baffles me how things like same sex marriage are still illegal in many parts of the world.  As society has come a long way in becoming more accepting of gay rights, the transgender community has not really received that same level approval.  But I still found myself wondering why Bruce Jenner coming out was so shocking to so many people.  Apart from the fact that it was him.  Why is the fact that any individual comes out as transgender, such a big deal in 2015?

The reason I asked that question, is because Bruce Jenner isn’t the first celebrity to come out as transgender, although I think he is definitely the most famous person to do so publicly.  My point is that it’s not something that’s new, even if many people may not be so knowledgable about it.  I tried to think of other transgender celebrities.  The main person who came to mind was Laverne Cox.  I have never seen Orange is the New Black, since I don’t have Netflix.  Tragic, I know.  But I did see her on an episode of The Mindy Project and I loved her.  But I don’t really know much about her, as I never heard about her coming out.  When I first heard of her, she was already out, so there was no surprise.  In terms of other celebrities, I thought of Chaz Bono.  We heard all about it when he came out and transitioned.  But I don’t recall any big memorable interview or anything.  Nevertheless, it was still in the media, so anyone paying attention would have heard about it.

There was also a few years ago where there was a news story about a pregnant man.  It was a female to male transition.  Thomas Beatie was transgender, but had not had surgery, so was still able to have a baby.  That was a big story for a while, but then everyone forgot about it.  I remember watching a CSI episode several years ago, where the victim was transgender, and they explored the transitioning process and the surgery, and everything that was involved.  I remember watching a documentary several years ago, about three people who were married with kids, who were coming out as transgender.  I can’t remember which channel it was on, or how widespread it was broadcast, since they weren’t famous people.  They were middle aged, but I think slightly younger than Bruce Jenner, and had come to the point where they didn’t want to hide who they were anymore.  They were all male to female transitions.  One of the wives stayed with her partner, saying that she had fallen in love with the person, not the gender.  She joked with the interviewer that maybe people would consider her a lesbian now, since her husband had transitioned and they were figuring out their sex life.

In terms of sexuality, Bruce Jenner tried to explain to Diane how it was different from his orientation.  There are questions that arise like are you gay and he explained that he has always been attracted to women.  In terms of pronouns, Bruce has asked that we continue to use he and him, until he officially transitions and comes out as a woman.  A lot of people have trouble with this and base the pronouns on whether you have a penis or a vagina.  You have to take into account that a person’s sex and gender are two different things.  When I was younger, I assumed that for a male to female transition, you would call the person he before surgery, and she after surgery, and vice versa.  But this is not the case.  Even if a person has male genitalia, if she identifies as a woman, you should use she.  Unless, like in Bruce’s case, he has specifically requested a certain pronoun be used.  Too bad we didn’t follow Sweden’s example and come up with a gender neutral pronoun.  That would make things so much easier, not just regarding gender issues, but for language use in general.

Using the correct pronoun based on the gender a person identifies as is important, especially since not every transgender person decides to have surgery.  Just as you would not ask a cisgender individual about what’s between their legs, it would similarly be inappropriate to ask this of a transgender individual.  Unless you’re in a sexual relationship with the person, it doesn’t need to be a matter of discussion, unless it’s something that they choose to bring up.

I love that Bruce Jenner is able to acknowledge and appreciate the humour in the situation.  He even acknowledges the irony that he, of all people identifies as a woman, since he’s regarded as the world’s greatest athlete, having won the decathlon in 1976.  Many viewed him as this strong, macho man, and I guess that’s part of why it’s so surprising to so many people.  He addressed the fact that people had speculated that this was all for publicity and to draw ratings for the show.  He laughed at how utterly ridiculous those accusations were.  As if he would really go through all this, just to draw in ratings.

He talked about when he was a child and growing up, and how this has been a part of him his whole life.  When questioned about why he waited until now, at age 65, to finally come out, his main reason was that he didn’t want to hurt his family.  He loves his children and didn’t want to do anything that might cause them to be hurt, which is totally understandable.  Him deciding to come out in such a public way will hopefully help foster understanding and encourage other transgender individuals to embrace who they are and have the courage to come out without fear.

I remember reading one of the comments on one of the articles and someone asked will he have to give back his medals?  Why?  Why would he have to give back his medals?  I see no reason for this.  He competed and won, as a man.  He wasn’t on hormones at the time.  I wonder though, how they would handle a situation in the Olympics today, if a young transgender individual were to compete.  What category would they be put in?  Because with the Olympics and sporting events, it’s physical, and I assume the fact that there are separate categories for men and women, is due to the fact that we are physically built differently.  If a person is built like a man, but identifies as a woman, which category would she compete in?  There has always been such a gender divide in athletics, so I don’t actually know how they would address this if it were a person who, at the time of competing, was currently out as transgender.  Bruce, at the time of his Olympic success, had the physicality of a man, even if he inwardly identified as a woman, so I see no issue with his win.  Apparently they interviewed the Soviet man who he beat in the decathlon who is supportive and also joked about how he can’t believe he was beat by a woman.  My first thought was, who cares whether or not that guy approves?

I remember Bruce Jenner saying that of his family, Khloe was the won who had the hardest time dealing with it, and I thought, who cares what Khloe thinks?  But as her stepdad, I’m sure it meant a lot to Bruce.  One of the most shocking things about the interview to me, was that Kanye West, of all people, was the one who helped Kim Kardashian accept Bruce Jenner’s coming out.  I’m not a fan of either Kim or Kanye, especially not Kanye, since he always seems so arrogant and so full of himself.  I mean this is a person who got mad at a guy in a wheelchair for not standing during one of his performances.  Who knew he would actually say something good?  I remember seeing a tweet from Perez Hilton saying that Kris Jenner refused to comment to ABC, and then Kris Jenner replied his tweet, getting mad at him and saying she was watching the documentary with Bruce at that moment.  I’m not at all a fan of Kris Jenner.  They showed some clips from the show, and there was one where she was getting mad at Bruce about the way he was dressed, and told him that he looked like a grandpa.  And I thought, but, he is a grandpa…  So what’s the problem?  Maybe she seems overly nasty for the show, or maybe she’s even worse in real life?  But it’s not about her, so who cares?

I know this has nothing to do with anything, but speaking of Bruce Jenner’s family, his son is kind of hot.  Two of his sons, actually Brandon and Brody.  But anyway, it’s so great that his family is so supportive and accepting.  He’s really lucky, not just because he’s famous, but because those closest to him are able to offer support.  He is also lucky that he has the money for hormones and to have the surgery if he chooses to.  Soon after the interview, much of what I read in the media was very positive.  But I then started noticing new comments from people who were still making fun of the situation and calling him gay and generally not understanding.  I guess that’s to be expected, as no matter what you do or who you are, there will always be people who judge you for it.  While there will always be ignorant people in this world who are unable to wrap their heads around things they don’t understand, I believe that this interview has probably helped a lot of people to further understand and be open to accepting the transgender community.

Sixth day of work selfie

Red is supposed to be a bold, strong, confident colour. And why wouldn’t I want to exude those qualities? I bought this red sweater at Sears last year, before it closed down. A friend of mine had mentioned how stuff was on sale and how she bought clothes from the Jessica line so I decided to follow suit. The sweater with the roses was from the same kiosk in Metrotown where I bought my shiny scarves. I’m actually wearing matching red rose rain boots that I got from The Bay, but sadly they are not pictured here, as I do not have access to a full length mirror. I believe it was sunny that day, because of course it would be on a day when I wear rain boots. I think the black dress was actually from La Vie En Rose. Despite being a lingerie store, they surprisingly have a lot of clothing items that are perfectly acceptable for everyday wear. No one would know the difference.  I just realized that I’m wearing a ROSE scarf with a dress from La Vie En ROSE. What a coincidence.