That explains it

https://www.google.ca/url?sa=i&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=images&cd=&ved=0CAcQjRw&url=https%3A%2F%2Fnerdist.com%2Fonce-upon-a-time-recap-lily%2F&ei=0GtBVcX9MYuuogTYnYCIBg&bvm=bv.92189499,d.cGU&psig=AFQjCNFWGDWpOJ3smr_4TyRNF85rKqgxQQ&ust=1430437154264684Any Once Upon A Time fans out there?  If you’re up to date with the series, you know that Maleficent lost her child, because Snow White and Prince Charming, fearful that Emma may be born evil, cursed Maleficent’s child with that evil instead and had her banished to the real world.  Because convoluted plot lines are an absolute must on the show.  And of course, that child ended up being Lily, Emma’s former childhood friend, who she pushed away since she seemed to cause nothing but trouble.  And now Maleficent, upon hearing her daughter is still alive, has asked Emma to go and find her, so that they can be happily reunited.  And apparently Lily has already since learned the truth of what happened to her, because the sorcerer told her so years ago on a train.  How did the sorcerer even get to the real world and find her?  No idea.  But Lily knows that her bad decisions and the fact that everything in her life seems to be so screwed up is not entirely her fault.  Everything is harder for her, because she was cursed.

I don’t know, when they said she would be cursed with the most powerful evil, I assumed that she would end up being, you know, evil.  Not just a person who makes bad decisions and has a shitty life.  Just because you’re a huge screw up and bad things happen when you’re around, doesn’t mean that you’re evil.  It makes you human.  If she were truly evil, wouldn’t she be more like Cruella, who was just a born psychopath?  When they said that she was cursed with a powerful evil and that her name was Lilith, I immediately thought of Lilith from Supernatural.  Because that bitch was evil.

After watching the last episode, I thought to myself, I feel like maybe I’m actually cursed with someone else’s evil, and that’s why I make bad life choices.  Wouldn’t it actually be great to know that your shitty life wasn’t entirely your fault and that there was someone else to blame?  That every time you made the worst decision ever, it didn’t necessarily reflect badly on you, because that’s the way you were made to be?  If there was such a thing as magic and evil and curses, I feel like that would totally explain my life.

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Bruce Jenner’s Interview with Diane Sawyer

On Friday, ABC aired Bruce Jenner’s much anticipated interview.  He sat down with Diane Sawyer to talk about his life and his coming out as transgender.  I have never in my life seen an episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians, but I have so much respect for Bruce Jenner.  It was mentioned how there’s an age divide in how we know Bruce, older folks having seen him in the Olympics, and the younger generation seeing him on the reality show.  I’m sure people tuned in for many different reasons, because they’ve been aware of the media attention he’s recently had, because they’ve heard the rumours and wonder if they’re true, because they like reality TV and this is a sort of extension of it, because they’re generally curious and want to learn more about transgender issues.  I thought the interview was very informative and very important.

I remember reading some of the comments on an article about the interview, and someone had responded with “Who cares?”  I generally don’t care about the lives of celebrities either, but this interview was so important for so many reasons.  Many people do not have a clear understanding about issues like gender identity and sexuality.  Watching the interview was very informative, and even more so because it came from a person who has lived it.  I think Bruce did such a good job explaining the difference between sexuality and gender identity, stating that “sexuality is who you go to bed with, and gender identity is who you go to bed as.”  I recall Diane Sawyer looking really confused about it, but having not seen very many of her interviews, I realize that could just be her natural facial expression.

Sometimes it’s difficult for me to realize that not everyone is as informed and educated about certain matters.  I’ve taken Psychology courses and Gender Studies courses that deeply explored the topics of sexuality and orientation.  I’ve watched TV shows and documentaries about these topics.  I have friends and acquaintances who have different sexual orientations.  It baffles me how things like same sex marriage are still illegal in many parts of the world.  As society has come a long way in becoming more accepting of gay rights, the transgender community has not really received that same level approval.  But I still found myself wondering why Bruce Jenner coming out was so shocking to so many people.  Apart from the fact that it was him.  Why is the fact that any individual comes out as transgender, such a big deal in 2015?

The reason I asked that question, is because Bruce Jenner isn’t the first celebrity to come out as transgender, although I think he is definitely the most famous person to do so publicly.  My point is that it’s not something that’s new, even if many people may not be so knowledgable about it.  I tried to think of other transgender celebrities.  The main person who came to mind was Laverne Cox.  I have never seen Orange is the New Black, since I don’t have Netflix.  Tragic, I know.  But I did see her on an episode of The Mindy Project and I loved her.  But I don’t really know much about her, as I never heard about her coming out.  When I first heard of her, she was already out, so there was no surprise.  In terms of other celebrities, I thought of Chaz Bono.  We heard all about it when he came out and transitioned.  But I don’t recall any big memorable interview or anything.  Nevertheless, it was still in the media, so anyone paying attention would have heard about it.

There was also a few years ago where there was a news story about a pregnant man.  It was a female to male transition.  Thomas Beatie was transgender, but had not had surgery, so was still able to have a baby.  That was a big story for a while, but then everyone forgot about it.  I remember watching a CSI episode several years ago, where the victim was transgender, and they explored the transitioning process and the surgery, and everything that was involved.  I remember watching a documentary several years ago, about three people who were married with kids, who were coming out as transgender.  I can’t remember which channel it was on, or how widespread it was broadcast, since they weren’t famous people.  They were middle aged, but I think slightly younger than Bruce Jenner, and had come to the point where they didn’t want to hide who they were anymore.  They were all male to female transitions.  One of the wives stayed with her partner, saying that she had fallen in love with the person, not the gender.  She joked with the interviewer that maybe people would consider her a lesbian now, since her husband had transitioned and they were figuring out their sex life.

In terms of sexuality, Bruce Jenner tried to explain to Diane how it was different from his orientation.  There are questions that arise like are you gay and he explained that he has always been attracted to women.  In terms of pronouns, Bruce has asked that we continue to use he and him, until he officially transitions and comes out as a woman.  A lot of people have trouble with this and base the pronouns on whether you have a penis or a vagina.  You have to take into account that a person’s sex and gender are two different things.  When I was younger, I assumed that for a male to female transition, you would call the person he before surgery, and she after surgery, and vice versa.  But this is not the case.  Even if a person has male genitalia, if she identifies as a woman, you should use she.  Unless, like in Bruce’s case, he has specifically requested a certain pronoun be used.  Too bad we didn’t follow Sweden’s example and come up with a gender neutral pronoun.  That would make things so much easier, not just regarding gender issues, but for language use in general.

Using the correct pronoun based on the gender a person identifies as is important, especially since not every transgender person decides to have surgery.  Just as you would not ask a cisgender individual about what’s between their legs, it would similarly be inappropriate to ask this of a transgender individual.  Unless you’re in a sexual relationship with the person, it doesn’t need to be a matter of discussion, unless it’s something that they choose to bring up.

I love that Bruce Jenner is able to acknowledge and appreciate the humour in the situation.  He even acknowledges the irony that he, of all people identifies as a woman, since he’s regarded as the world’s greatest athlete, having won the decathlon in 1976.  Many viewed him as this strong, macho man, and I guess that’s part of why it’s so surprising to so many people.  He addressed the fact that people had speculated that this was all for publicity and to draw ratings for the show.  He laughed at how utterly ridiculous those accusations were.  As if he would really go through all this, just to draw in ratings.

He talked about when he was a child and growing up, and how this has been a part of him his whole life.  When questioned about why he waited until now, at age 65, to finally come out, his main reason was that he didn’t want to hurt his family.  He loves his children and didn’t want to do anything that might cause them to be hurt, which is totally understandable.  Him deciding to come out in such a public way will hopefully help foster understanding and encourage other transgender individuals to embrace who they are and have the courage to come out without fear.

I remember reading one of the comments on one of the articles and someone asked will he have to give back his medals?  Why?  Why would he have to give back his medals?  I see no reason for this.  He competed and won, as a man.  He wasn’t on hormones at the time.  I wonder though, how they would handle a situation in the Olympics today, if a young transgender individual were to compete.  What category would they be put in?  Because with the Olympics and sporting events, it’s physical, and I assume the fact that there are separate categories for men and women, is due to the fact that we are physically built differently.  If a person is built like a man, but identifies as a woman, which category would she compete in?  There has always been such a gender divide in athletics, so I don’t actually know how they would address this if it were a person who, at the time of competing, was currently out as transgender.  Bruce, at the time of his Olympic success, had the physicality of a man, even if he inwardly identified as a woman, so I see no issue with his win.  Apparently they interviewed the Soviet man who he beat in the decathlon who is supportive and also joked about how he can’t believe he was beat by a woman.  My first thought was, who cares whether or not that guy approves?

I remember Bruce Jenner saying that of his family, Khloe was the won who had the hardest time dealing with it, and I thought, who cares what Khloe thinks?  But as her stepdad, I’m sure it meant a lot to Bruce.  One of the most shocking things about the interview to me, was that Kanye West, of all people, was the one who helped Kim Kardashian accept Bruce Jenner’s coming out.  I’m not a fan of either Kim or Kanye, especially not Kanye, since he always seems so arrogant and so full of himself.  I mean this is a person who got mad at a guy in a wheelchair for not standing during one of his performances.  Who knew he would actually say something good?  I remember seeing a tweet from Perez Hilton saying that Kris Jenner refused to comment to ABC, and then Kris Jenner replied his tweet, getting mad at him and saying she was watching the documentary with Bruce at that moment.  I’m not at all a fan of Kris Jenner.  They showed some clips from the show, and there was one where she was getting mad at Bruce about the way he was dressed, and told him that he looked like a grandpa.  And I thought, but, he is a grandpa…  So what’s the problem?  Maybe she seems overly nasty for the show, or maybe she’s even worse in real life?  But it’s not about her, so who cares?

I know this has nothing to do with anything, but speaking of Bruce Jenner’s family, his son is kind of hot.  Two of his sons, actually Brandon and Brody.  But anyway, it’s so great that his family is so supportive and accepting.  He’s really lucky, not just because he’s famous, but because those closest to him are able to offer support.  He is also lucky that he has the money for hormones and to have the surgery if he chooses to.  Soon after the interview, much of what I read in the media was very positive.  But I then started noticing new comments from people who were still making fun of the situation and calling him gay and generally not understanding.  I guess that’s to be expected, as no matter what you do or who you are, there will always be people who judge you for it.  While there will always be ignorant people in this world who are unable to wrap their heads around things they don’t understand, I believe that this interview has probably helped a lot of people to further understand and be open to accepting the transgender community.

Things I definitely won’t be giving up for Lent

– Meat
– Carbs
– TV
– Facebook
– Twitter
– Blogging
– Texting
– Complaining
– Being sarcastic
– Procrastinating
– Overthinking
– Spending money
– Wasting time
– Making bad decisions

At least I know my limitations.

I got a pedicure

After a long day of working and volunteering, I decided to treat myself to a pedicure.  Well also, I bought a voucher from TastyGo a while ago that I had yet to use.  I tend to have a bit of a problem when it comes to purchasing online deals like Groupons, Indulge Living dealsSocialShopper deals, and so on and so forth.  I mean, I forgot I even had a TastyGo account.  And then I always end up checking my accounts at the last minute and realizing that I have a voucher that will soon expire.  This particular one expires in June.  However, I have another pedicure voucher from TeamBuy that also expires in June.  So I had to use one of them now.

The place I went today was Illusion Studio and Spa on West Broadway.  It was nice there. I picked out my polish, and then made my way over to the chair.  In the past I’ve often opted for red polish, because it’s just so classic, but lately I’ve been opening up my colour choices.  I thought a bright blue would be nice for spring.  And I think it was a good decision.  I tested a few shades of blue on my nail, only to realize there was a piece of paper sitting on the counter designated for colour testing.  Oh well.

I think I picked a good colour

I liked the set up they have there, because my chair was faced in good view of the TV.  At first I was disappointed because I thought that the chair was not a massage chair.  And then I noticed the remote carefully hidden at the side and retrieved it as soon as I made this discovery.  I love those massage chairs, pressing random buttons even though you’re never really sure what exactly they’re going to do.  Do they sell those things to normal people, or only supply them at salons?  Because I want one.  At some point the massage chair stopped massaging and it took me a while to notice before starting it up again.  But I did stop it while she was doing the nail art, as the vibration may have caused some disruption.

The TV was on the Food Network.  I think if you’re going to have the channel on the Food Network, you should also have some food available for the people watching.  It’s the decent thing to do.  The show that happened to be on was Family Cook Off, a show I had never watched before, nor will I ever watch it again.  It’s basically two families cooking an entree and a dessert and then the two judges give them points and whichever family has the most points wins the “coveted golden frying pan” and $1000 worth of groceries.  I don’t know why but that seems like kind of a lame prize to me.  I mean I’d rather have the $1000 so I can go buy my own groceries.  Cause I’ll bet the $1000 worth of groceries they get weren’t on sale.  The host of the show is super annoying.  She just keeps bothering the contestants as they’re trying to cook and asking them stupid questions.  The episode I saw was a family of kids against a family of old people.  The kids won.  That’s all I have to say about it.

Pretty nail art that I could never do

So back to my pedicure.  I usually don’t get nail art, but the voucher I bought included it.  Score.  I am quite happy with the outcome.  I don’t get pedicures very often, but in the past I’ve had some where they didn’t look that much better than if I had attempted it myself.  Okay, that’s not true, any attempts of mine would be far worse than anything a professional or a normal person could accomplish.  Or anything a drunk or otherwise incompetent person could accomplish.  But some were never really anything special.  This time, they came out pretty and professional looking, and like they’ll last.

For some reason, the woman beside me got a nail dryer after her pedicure to speed up the drying process.  I did not.  I was just left to sit there and let them air dry in their own sweet time.  But I didn’t complain.  It allowed me more time to sit and watch TV in my massage chair.  No complaints there.  I’m pretty sure the staff there made fun of me in another language, but I think that happens to me pretty much at any salon or spa I go to ever.  Or maybe I’m just paranoid.  But she painted my nails so pretty that I don’t care either way.

Not a weather appropriate footwear choice

I brought flip flops to wear after, as you’re supposed to do.  But unfortunately for me, I was taking public transit and it was cold and raining outside.  I probably looked like an idiot with my rain coat, umbrella, and flip flops.  Not exactly weather appropriate footwear.  But whatever.  Why hide a good pedicure?  And it wasn’t terribly cold.  Although my last bus was late so I was standing outside longer than I had expected.  But I figured that if my toes were to turn blue from the cold, they would at least match my toenails.

I am wearing socks right now, so I can’t see the beauty of my toenails at the moment.  Because it’s cold.  And tomorrow I will likely wear boots because it’s supposed to rain.  And the day after that, closed toed shoes of some kind because it might still be cold.  But damn it when the sun is shining and the weather is nice, I will wear my flip flops proudly once again.  Also, the Army & Navy shoe sale starts next week, so at least my feet will look good as I’m trying on shoes.

My feet will look good in so many shoes now

My dream job

A few weeks ago when I came home, my mom tossed the Richmond Review newspaper to me and said “Here’s a job for you”.  I didn’t know what it was.  I thought maybe it would be some sort of joke thing, you never know with my mom.  But this is the article that she was referring to.

Of course I was intrigued, read the whole article and looked it up online and checked all the qualifications and instructions and deadline for submissions.  Tourism Richmond is hiring a food blogger to eat at various restaurants around Richmond and blog about it.  This is pretty much my dream job.  The only thing better would be if someone would pay me to blog about watching TV or riding public transit.

When I went to the online ad, it said they were looking for someone who was passionate about food and was constantly on Facebook and Twitter.  If those were the only requirements, I’d be a shoo-in for this.  But it looks like they might prefer candidates who already have their own established food blogs.  While my blog here isn’t solely dedicated to food, it seems like food is a topic that seems to come up pretty often.  I am passionate about food and it is one of my most popular blogging topics.

I update my Facebook and Twitter several times a day.  And everyday there is at least one status about food, usually more.  Either about food that I’ve bought, seen, eaten, or want to eat.  Or something witty about the various national food days.  For example, today happens to be National French Bread Day.  How do I know that?  I make it a point to keep up with all the national food holidays throughout the year.  My friend asked me if I have a food calendar.  I do not, but I would like one.  Do those exist?  If not, can I start making them?  I mean a calendar that lists the national food days, not a calendar made of food.  Although that sounds even more amazing.

I haven’t applied for this job yet.  They give you all of March to do so.  I don’t want to rush it.  From what I’ve seen, there’s A LOT of competition.  And a lot of them are total foodies who have well established food blogs and lots of followers and experience.  Experience with what?  I don’t know, writing?  Eating?  But I think I have a lot of experience writing and eating as well.  And I have a lot of experience living in Richmond, so I know areas and restaurants and history.

When thinking about applying, this is what I came up with for the reasons I should be the food blogger for Tourism Richmond.

1) I eat food.

2) I’m a blogger.

3) I live in Richmond.

You can’t argue with that logic, right?  Although some would say it’s a bit of a weak arguement, I suppose.  But it’s true.  Then again, a lot of people can probably relate to items 1-3.  I guess I shall have to come up with more than that.  What about the fact that I really want it and it’s my dream job?  No?  Not good enough?  Fine.  I’ll think of something better.

The perks of this job are insane.  I had to read it several times in order to believe that this was an actual position.  They pay $50,000 for a year of work.  They pay you to eat out at restaurants.  They provide you with housing.  They give you a gym membership to help you work off the calories from eating out everyday.  What more could you ask for?

Of course with an insane job, there will be insane competition.  If you check Facebook or Twitter or just Google 365 Days of Dining, you’ll see how much hype and interest there is in this.  Obviously.  But I won’t let that discourage me.  I’ll accept it as a challenge.  One thing they want is someone who’s “open-minded and willing to try new things”.  There’s a lot of food that I’ve tried, and a lot that I haven’t tried.  And I think that’s a good thing, because it would give a new perspective for some things.

I love blogging and I love food and it would be so great to be able to combine the two and get paid for it.  I wish there wasn’t only the one position.  But alas, that’s the way it is.  And whether or not I qualify for this, I will continue to blog about food and I will continue to constantly overuse Facebook and Twitter.  It would just be a whole lot better if I was getting paid to do so.

 

Today Is Friday

*Note: I originally posted this on my What are we watching? blog.  But I figure it’s random enough that I should post it here as well.*

That probably makes you think of Rebecca Black doesn’t it?  And now you hate me for getting that song stuck in your head?  Well, that was actually not my intention.  If I wanted to make you think of Rebecca Black, I would have called this post “Friday” or “It’s Friday” or “Gotta Get Down on Friday”.  Or something like that.  Everyone associates Friday with Rebecca Black.  But am I the only one who remembers the song Today is Friday by Nuclear Donkey?  Don’t have a clue what I’m talking about?  Here…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oxzhhcuJOHg

Now do you remember?  Or am I the only one?  Sadly I couldn’t find an actual video of them singing it.  But at least I was able to find the song.  I used to love watching YTV.  It was great when I was a kid.  YTV provided classic after school entertainment for kids.  I remember watching it when they had Treehouse with PJ Phil.  And PJ Katie’s farm.  And the Hit List.  I remember watching Camp Cariboo and Rupert and Wishbone and Reboot.  And Pinky and the Brain and Sailor Moon and Dexter’s Laboratory.  I think YTV had much better taste back in the 90s.

Nuclear Donkey was a band formed by Jenny and Pat on the Zone on YTV.  I specifically remember watching it when they sang the song Today Is Friday (Donkey Sneakers).  I remember thinking how completely random it was.  “Today is Friday, I hope you put your shoes on” and “Today is Friday, I hope you got your pants on” were random but also brilliant lyrics in my mind.  Thinking about it kind of makes me want to go out and buy the YTV Big Fun Party Mix CD.  So I can remember the awesomeness once again.

If you still don’t know what I’m talking about, then I feel bad for you.  It would be upsetting to know that Rebecca Black’s song is the only Friday song that you’re familiar with.  I’m so glad I was exposed to one long before it.  I mean technically there’s also Friday I’m in Love by the Cure and Just Got Paid (Friday Night) by Johnny Kemp (yes, the N’sync version was a cover).  And now there’s Katy Perry’s Last Friday Night as well.  But I’ll always remember the one by Nuclear Donkey because it makes me feel nostalgic and reminds me of my YTV watching days as a kid.

I just thought I would share that since today is Friday.  And I’m tired of people quoting and singing Rebecca Black when this day rolls around.  I mean sure people love “partying” and I know that “everybody’s looking forward to the weekend”.  But more importantly, I do “hope you got your pants on”.  Please, for the sake of those around you.  And “I hope you put your shoes on” if you’re going outside.  Pat and Jenny really knew what they were talking about.  “Today is Friday, thanks for putting your clothes on.”